WP 29 | Your Therapy Practice as a Spiritual Practice

In this episode of The Wise Practice Podcast, host Whitney Owens interviews Russell Jones, a psychotherapist who has been practicing since 1996 and recently wrote a book called "Spirit in Session." Jones also helps present the Association for Clinical Pastoral Education's Spiritual Integration in Psychotherapy (SIP) curriculum. Owens and Jones discuss the intersection of spirituality and therapy, and how to use one's therapy practice as a spiritual practice. Dr. Russell Siler Jones is the author of Spirit in Session: Working with Your Client’s Spirituality (and Your Own) in Psychotherapy (Templeton Press, 2019) and of ACPE’s SIP curriculum. He has practiced psychotherapy in Asheville, NC, since 1996 and directed the Residency in Psychotherapy and Spirituality for CareNet/Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist since 2008. He and his wife Jeanine are parents of two adult children.

The Importance of Spirituality in Therapy

Jones notes that spirituality is an important aspect of the therapeutic process, as it "is a part of our makeup as human beings." He states that "all people have some sense of spirituality," and that therapists should integrate this aspect into their practice. Owens agrees, stating that "it's important that we honor the spiritual aspect of our client's lives," as it can provide valuable insight into their mental health.

Jones also emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and spirituality for therapists. He believes that "we have to be in touch with our own spirituality" in order to effectively integrate spirituality into our practice. Owens adds that this self-awareness can help therapists identify and overcome biases they may have towards certain clients.

Using Your Practice as a Spiritual Practice

Jones argues that therapists can use their practice as a spiritual practice by focusing on the present moment and connecting with their clients on a deeper level. He believes that therapists can achieve this by using mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing and meditation. By doing this, therapists can become more attuned to their clients' needs and emotions, and create a more meaningful therapeutic experience. “Where is God moving in this person’s life? How are they connecting with god?” 

Owens adds that therapists should also focus on creating a safe and welcoming environment for their clients. This can include using welcoming language, offering tissues or water, and avoiding judgmental statements. Jones agrees, stating that creating a safe space is essential to building a strong therapeutic relationship.

Balancing Work and Personal Life

“Your spiritual life is happening all the time.” Jones and Owens also discuss the challenges of balancing work and personal life, especially for therapists who are also parents. Jones shares his experience of starting a practice with his wife and renting an office space together to balance work and parenting. He believes that finding a "sweet mix" between professional and personal life is essential to creating a fulfilling career and family life.

Owens adds that self-care is essential for therapists, especially those who are parents. She suggests that therapists prioritize self-care by scheduling time for hobbies, exercise, and other activities that bring them joy.

Connecting with God's Spirit in Therapy

Whitney Owens and Russell Jones describe how their work is a conduit for God's Spirit. Whitney explains that therapy is about "working out our differences" and experiencing "love, healing, and compassion" with clients. Russell notes that when the spirit blows through someone's life, they may be hit hard by their conscience, leading to creative, courageous, or compassionate changes.

Russell and Whitney highlight the importance of being aware of the spirit's movement in therapy. They discuss how it is easy to have one's own agenda and try to push a treatment method or idea. Instead, they recommend being cognizant of where the spirit is moving and joining in it.

Russell talks about the importance of connecting with the wind of the spirit. He notes that it is like putting one's wings in a position to ride the currents of wind instead of trying to flap one's own way into something. Whitney notes that sometimes she has tried to push an idea that she knew in her gut was not where she was supposed to go. She recommends being open to the spirit's leading.

Following the Nudges of Spirit

Jones explains how his book came to be after a spiritual experience in nature. He shares that it is essential to learn to say yes to the nudges of spirit, even if it leads to mistakes. "Learning to say yes, even if the Yes you say turns out to be a mistake, there's grace to cover that too," says Jones. He encourages listeners to follow their nudges from spirit, even if it means doing something they do not want to do.

Finding the Spirit in the Mundane

Jones describes how therapy can become a spiritual practice by finding the spirit in the mundane moments of life. He shares how it is essential to be present in the moment, to listen deeply, and to honor the stories of others. "Therapy is a spiritual practice when we are really attentive to the person in front of us, and we are honoring them, and we are being present to the mystery of their lives," says Jones. By finding the spirit in everyday moments, therapy becomes a way of connecting to the divine.

Embracing the Mystery of Life

Jones explains how therapy can become a spiritual practice by embracing the mystery of life. He shares how therapy is not about having all the answers but being present to the questions. "I think that if we can hold questions and the mystery of life with curiosity and not anxiety, then we can be available to whatever comes in the therapy room," says Jones. By embracing the mystery of life, therapists can create a space for healing and transformation.

Practicing Spirituality in Therapy

Whitney and Russell end the podcast with tips on how to practice spirituality in therapy. They recommend being open to inspiration from people and being corrected and shaped by others. They also advise being grateful and practicing gratitude as a way of connecting with the wind of the spirit.

Quotes and Tips

  • Be aware of the spirit's movement and join in it instead of having your own agenda.

  • Connect with the wind of the spirit by being open to inspiration from people, being corrected and shaped by others, and practicing gratitude.

  • Be mindful of where the spirit is moving and how you can support your clients in that movement.

  • Be open to change and be willing to let go of ideas that do not align with the spirit's movement.

  • "Consider letting your therapy practice be a spiritual practice."

  • "A spiritual practice is anything we do with the intention of growing ourselves or allowing ourselves to be grown spiritually."

  • "Treating our therapy practice as a spiritual practice means coming to the therapy hour as a time, not just for our clients to grow and change, but for us to do that too."

  • "I'm encouraging you to receive this as one of the gifts of your job to let your practice be a spiritual practice."

Resources

Show Notes and Audio Production by James Marland

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